Divorce is often most difficult for the children involved. Your kids are still developing physically, intellectually, and emotionally, so the method and timing you use to break the news of your divorce to them is crucial. If you and your spouse have chosen to part ways, you must formulate a plan for not only telling your children about the decision, but helping them cope in the days ahead.
It is important to know what you will tell your children ahead of time. This is one discussion where you definitely don’t want to wing it. Whatever you say, say it in such a way that doesn’t make your spouse look bad in front of your children. This discussion is not a launching pad for you to air your frustrations with your spouse, but rather a time to explain to your children that things will be changing. Before you tell your children about the divorce, we suggest:
While you may not want to spend much time with your spouse during this time, it is important that you have this conversation with your children together. No matter what way you look at it, this discussion will not be a happy one. However, what you choose to focus on can drastically change the tenor – there are positives you can focus on.
Your job isn’t over after you’ve had “the talk.” Your children will likely have questions and concerns about the future. They may even resent you and your spouse initially. Make it a point to be extremely attentive to your children during this time. Even if they are not overtly expressing concerns, they may be suffering internally. Commit yourself to asking questions and being there for your children at all costs.
The Buxner Law Firm is here to help individuals and families with some of life’s most difficult decisions. If you are considering divorce and would like to consult with one of our attorneys, we invite you to call us at (314) 863-6000 to discuss your case.