Internet Affairs & Infidelity

St. Louis Divorce Attorneys Who Care

The rise of the internet has made it easier than ever to connect with people at any time and any place. Unfortunately, the cyber age has also made it easy for people to anonymously engage in chat room conversations or cybersex that they would rather keep hidden from their spouse or significant other.

With the growing popularity of online affairs, we are faced with a new definition of infidelity—one that doesn't necessarily have to include physical contact or actual sex. With the internet as a tool, cheating can easily include forming cyber relationships with people by sending salacious emails, engaging in steamy chat room conversations, exchanging sexual photos, or filming sexual actions over webcam. Even simply building a romantic, emotional connection can be done online. Although these actions might not be done in person, internet affairs are still a major breach of trust and can be just as damaging as traditional affair.


Has your spouse engaged in an online an affair? It may be time to discuss your case with a St. Louis divorce lawyer at The Buxner Law Firm. Reach us at (314) 863-6000


Statistics on Internet Infidelity

A study conducted among web users in Sweden in 2005 revealed that nearly one-third of participants had engaged in cybersex. Shockingly, people in committed relationships were just as likely to engage in online affairs as single people. Although men have traditionally been thought of as most likely to cheat, the study also found that women were slightly more interested in cybersex than men. With the ease and convenience of online affairs, it seems a greater number of people are more likely to experiment than ever before.

Why Are Internet Affairs So Popular?

Part of the appeal of internet affairs is explained by the AAA engine that drives them:

  • Accessibility: The internet can be accessed anytime, anywhere, and on a variety of different devices. Whether in a living room, a work office, or at a coffee shop, internet affairs are easily accessible.
  • Affordability: Internet-based relationships don’t come with the traditional price tags of extramarital affairs, including dinner or hotel bills. This makes achieving satisfaction much more affordable.
  • Anonymity: People can indulge their fantasies behind the safety of a computer screen—and can easily delete incriminating evidence like emails, photos, and their browsing history afterwards.

The Online Surge of Ashley Madison

Ashley Madison, a Canada-based online dating service, is visited 124 million times per month. There are 33+ million men and women who had accounts on this site at one point. The purpose of Ashely Madison, whose slogan is “Life is short, Have an affair”, is to provide a forum where married people or people in committed relationships can arrange to have an affair. While it may seem shocking, sites like Ashley Madison are a response to the changing nature and definition of romantic relationships, reflecting a culture that increasingly encourages easy access to instant gratification. The company even offers a “premium adultery guarantee” to their highest-paying members—they can get a refund if they do not find what they are looking for.

Need to Talk to a St. Louis Divorce Lawyer? Call Us.

While an online connection may start out harmless enough, it can quickly turn into a relationship that destroys a marriage—regardless of whether it is sexual or emotional in nature. If your marriage has been shattered by secrecy and lies due to a cyber-affair, it may be time to consider a divorce.

When a marriage is rife with irreconcilable differences, the St. Louis divorce lawyers at our firm are here to help. The Buxner Law firm has been advocating for family law clients for more than 20 years and understand the unique needs of our clients going through divorce after a marital affair.

A brighter future is possible. Take the first step by calling on our firm at (314) 863-6000 for a free consultation. We look forward to helping you through this time.